Respark

Igniting hope and joy after trauma and depression

“ This book is absolutely brilliant, beautifully written, with a fantastic central metaphor about sparking and those who have lost spark. ”
Dr. Karen Treisman. MBE, TedX speaker, author

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Graham Music

I offer psychotherapy to adults, children, young people, families as well as supervision.

I work in private practice and the NHS, and have worked at the Tavistock and Portman Clinics for over 15 years. I teach and lecture on various courses in the UK and abroad, lecture internationally, and have published widely, in academic journals, and edited and sole-authored books.

Publications

Below are a selection of Graham Music’s books.
For more visit the My Books page.

Respark

Igniting hope and joy after trauma and depression

“This book is absolutely brilliant, beautifully written, with a fantastic central metaphor about sparking and those who have lost spark.”
Dr. Karen Treisman. MBE, TedX speaker, author

How can we respark hope and joy after depression and trauma? Acclaimed psychotherapist and trauma expert, Graham Music, distills decades of experience into a road-map for reigniting zest and optimism in troubled adults and children.

In these challenging times many feel unmotivated, listless and have lost their mojo. Some have retreated after trauma, others are depressed, or succumb to addictive temptations such as screens. Too many have lost both ease and enthusiasm.

Weaving cutting-edge science, therapeutic wisdom, and deep humanity, Music uses fascinating tales from the consulting room and life to outline the steps needed in each case to regenerate confidence and desire.

Whether you are a therapist, professional, parent, or just looking to find inspiration, this book offers a captivating and hope-filled journey, showing how we can rediscover vitality and passion to live richer lives.

Nurturing Children book cover – a book by Graham Music

Nurturing Children

From Trauma to Growth Using Attachment Theory, Psychoanalysis and Neurobiology

“Dr Music is certainly one of the best and probably the most deep thinking child psychotherapists in the world. This beautiful book distills decades of neuro-clinical thinking, interpreting children’s and young people’s experience and behavior in terms of the most applicable and scientifically credible models of mind. …I could not recommend a book more strongly.”

Professor Peter Fonagy OBE, UCL;
Chief Executive of the Anna Freud National Centre

Drawing on decades of experience, internationally respected clinician and trainer Graham Music tackles major issues affecting troubled children, including trauma, neglect, depression and violence. Using psychoanalysis alongside modern developmental thinking from neurobiology, attachment and trauma theory and mindfulness, Music creates his own distinctive blend of approaches to help even the most traumatised of children.

A mix of personal accounts and therapeutic riches, Nurturing Children will appeal to anyone helping children, young people and families to lead fuller lives.

Nurturing Natures - front cover of book 2024 Edition

Nurturing Natures

Attachment and Children's Emotional, Sociocultural and Brain Development

This new edition of the bestselling text, Nurturing Natures, provides an indispensable synthesis of the latest scientific knowledge about children’s emotional development. Integrating a wealth of both up-to-date and classical research from areas such as attachment theory, neuroscience developmental psychology and cross-cultural studies, it weaves these into an accessible enjoyable text which always keeps in mind children recognisable to academics, practitioners and parents.

Book Front Cover - Affect and Emotion

Affect and Emotion

A Brief Psychoanalytic Tour

Why are emotions so vital to living our best life? How do psychoanalytic ideas shed light on this? What are the key things we really need to know about feelings? What is the difference between emotions, affects, and feelings?

Emotions are at the heart of psychotherapy, indeed of all relationships, and of life in general. Using examples from the consulting room and everyday life, Music shows how emotional decision-making is often unconscious, how early experiences influence later attachment relationships, and how the body is the seat of emotions. We learn about the effects of both trauma and neglect on emotional capacities, why some people seem to feel too much, others too little, and we see the negative effects of feelings being disowned, repressed, projected, and defended against.

The Good Life - front cover of book

The Good Life

Wellbeing and the new science of altruism, selfishness and immorality

Are we born selfish or primed to help others?
Does stress make people more antisocial?
Can we ever be genuinely altruistic?

This book explores some of the dilemmas at the heart of being human. Integrating cutting edge studies with in-depth clinical experience, Graham Music synthesizes a wealth of fascinating research into an explanation of altruism, cooperation and generosity and shows how we are primed to turn off the better angels of our nature in the face of stress, anxiety and fear.

Upcoming Events

Below is a list of events that Graham Music will be speaking at or which Graham Music will deliver as a trainer.

June 21, 2024

Traumatic roots of forensic presentations: Early experience and attachment

Conferencer

Organiser: Sussex Partnership NHS Trust
Location: Brighton
July 6, 2024

When Empathy is Not Enough: The role of challenge

Event Link

CPD event for Sunflower, primarily for child and adolescent therapists

Organiser: Sunflower
Location: online
July 13, 2024

Neglect and its relevance to sexual abuse survivors

Inset training for Surviviors Network Brighton

Organiser: Survivors Network
Location: Brighton, venue tbc
September 13, 2024

Violence and Aggression in Children (Adoption Plus)

Days training for those working with children

Organiser: Adoption Plus
Location: online
November 29, 2024

Understanding and Working with Primary Aged Children (Adoption Plus)

Days training

Organiser: Adoption Plus
Location: online
February 7, 2025

Respark. Working with dampened down states (Adoption Plus)

Days training for those working with children

Organiser: Adoption Plus
Location: online

Videos

Here is a selection of videos where Graham Music discusses areas of counselling and psychotherapy, his books and current topics. 

London-based psychotherapist Graham Music works in private practice and with the NHS, and has worked at the Tavistock and Portman Clinics for over 15 years. He teaches and lectures on various courses in the UK and abroad, lectures internationally, and has published widely, in academic journals, and edited and sole-authored books. Here, we discuss his experiences at the Tavistock Clinic, his journey to becoming a psychotherapist, and two of his books, Nurturing Natures and Respark (links below).

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Graham Music's webpage
https://nurturingnatures.co.uk/

Nurturing Natures: Attachment and Children's Emotional, Sociocultural and Brain Development (Fourth Edition, Graham Music, 2024)
https://www.amazon.com.au/Nurturing-Natures-Attachment-Sociocultural-Development-dp-1032436271/dp/1032436271/ref=dp_ob_title_bk

Respark: Igniting hope and joy after trauma and depression (Graham Music, 2022)
https://www.amazon.com.au/Respark-Igniting-after-trauma-depression-ebook/dp/B09N42LBDF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2W4OGKSNAMJ0G&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1I76n_xQUaFX-5rqCL2IHRvqwAMf4WWkdUeWG3nib0jGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.qabVA265fe2oANr1Kypa77SLiAm_iqerI65IxV27L0k&dib_tag=se&keywords=music+respark&qid=1709506493&s=books&sprefix=music+respark%2Cstripbooks%2C261&sr=1-1

Affect and Emotion: A Brief Psychoanalytic Tour (Graham Music, 2022)
https://www.amazon.com.au/Affect-Emotions-Brief-Psychoanalytic-Tour/dp/1739814746/ref=sr_1_7?crid=27322B68Z7VN3&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.puLYqF8_gKwhH8XCgQImfuh8rqIsHs2xiCwi0-lmZ6FqFO2GmKgVQ_P1gBqdHdFherbkxx6MJPAQxPgoa1n9cqsSb-D-yG8z-m2sjuxcFNu2Q_fc_BOYPyLbQcFt-46r23QdeP5A5wY9Joj09CyI0sI9bpby3eCJohRIv0j_S8o7iuocG7JZfRkVR2hR2pxZEgIM8vqL3bWLDBri-n3jiTjVeBdEHLlB6Q41gdDfGQo.-N5xvs_UkrWCLUyx5TA1F9ZdBqhNMNMSOtO5-Dep4xI&dib_tag=se&keywords=music+attachment+and+emotion&qid=1709506520&s=books&sprefix=music+attachment+and+emotion%2Cstripbooks%2C244&sr=1-7

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

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YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/lT_K1K1qaH8

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Respark, Nurturing Natures, Graham Music, humanistic, psychoanalytic, compassion, safeness, connection, Paul Gilbert, compassion focused therapy, mindfulness

London-based psychotherapist Graham Music works in private practice and with the NHS, and has worked at the Tavistock and Portman Clinics for over 15 years. He teaches and lectures on various courses in the UK and abroad, lectures internationally, and has published widely, in academic journals, and edited and sole-authored books. Here, we discuss his experiences at the Tavistock Clinic, his journey to becoming a psychotherapist, and two of his books, Nurturing Natures and Respark (links below).

TARGETED PLAYLIST LINK:

Compassion in a T-Shirt: In Session

LINKS:

Graham Music's webpage
https://nurturingnatures.co.uk/

Nurturing Natures: Attachment and Children's Emotional, Sociocultural and Brain Development (Fourth Edition, Graham Music, 2024)
https://www.amazon.com.au/Nurturing-Natures-Attachment-Sociocultural-Development-dp-1032436271/dp/1032436271/ref=dp_ob_title_bk

Respark: Igniting hope and joy after trauma and depression (Graham Music, 2022)
https://www.amazon.com.au/Respark-Igniting-after-trauma-depression-ebook/dp/B09N42LBDF/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2W4OGKSNAMJ0G&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.1I76n_xQUaFX-5rqCL2IHRvqwAMf4WWkdUeWG3nib0jGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.qabVA265fe2oANr1Kypa77SLiAm_iqerI65IxV27L0k&dib_tag=se&keywords=music+respark&qid=1709506493&s=books&sprefix=music+respark%2Cstripbooks%2C261&sr=1-1

Affect and Emotion: A Brief Psychoanalytic Tour (Graham Music, 2022)
https://www.amazon.com.au/Affect-Emotions-Brief-Psychoanalytic-Tour/dp/1739814746/ref=sr_1_7?crid=27322B68Z7VN3&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.puLYqF8_gKwhH8XCgQImfuh8rqIsHs2xiCwi0-lmZ6FqFO2GmKgVQ_P1gBqdHdFherbkxx6MJPAQxPgoa1n9cqsSb-D-yG8z-m2sjuxcFNu2Q_fc_BOYPyLbQcFt-46r23QdeP5A5wY9Joj09CyI0sI9bpby3eCJohRIv0j_S8o7iuocG7JZfRkVR2hR2pxZEgIM8vqL3bWLDBri-n3jiTjVeBdEHLlB6Q41gdDfGQo.-N5xvs_UkrWCLUyx5TA1F9ZdBqhNMNMSOtO5-Dep4xI&dib_tag=se&keywords=music+attachment+and+emotion&qid=1709506520&s=books&sprefix=music+attachment+and+emotion%2Cstripbooks%2C244&sr=1-7

If you would like to learn more about Compassion Focused Therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.amazon.com.au/Gifts-Compassion-understand-overcome-suffering/dp/1925644480

Say hi on social:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl
Twitter: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/
Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/

YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/lT_K1K1qaH8

*Affiliate Disclaimer:
Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support!

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Respark, Nurturing Natures, Graham Music, humanistic, psychoanalytic, compassion, safeness, connection, Paul Gilbert, compassion focused therapy, mindfulness

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Psychology research and child development blog

In Graham Music’s blog  he critically introduces, and contextualises, new research findings from developmental research, neuroscience, attachment theory and other areas of psychology that are topical or are likely to whet the appetite of anyone interested.

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Inching Towards Spring

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What I offer

I have undertaken extensive trainings as both an adult and a child and adolescent psychotherapist. I work with adults and parents in private practice and with children and adolescents primarily in the NHS.  I have worked at the Tavistock Clinic in London for over a decade, an internationally renowned NHS  Foundation Trust which provides clinical services and trains therapists and other professionals.  I teach on the child psychotherapy and other psychological therapy courses at the Tavistock, and supervises therapists there. I also lead on training in child development, neuroscience and attachment theory, and have a particular interest in linking cutting-edge developmental findings with therapeutic practice. My clinical work in the NHS is primarily with issues of trauma and the effect of maltreatment on children as well as on the families and other adults in the lives of such children.

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Graham Music is located near Tufnell Park underground station, easily accessed from Kentish Town, Islington, Highgate, Archway, Camden, Holloway, Finsbury Park (N1, N7, N19, N5, NW1, NW3, NW5).

Tufnell Park, London, UK

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